Saturday, February 7, 2015

Tara Wilson: The Long Lasting and Lifetime Effect of Guardianship Abuse

Watching my mother being abused by a horribly corrupt judicial system, uncaring politicians, greedy attorneys and family members that are supposed to love one another has truly been a life changing experience for me. I worked hard to save her from being placed in nursing homes. The first two times I managed to bring her home; the third time was just too much for her and the fear took her life. 

My grandchildren, as young as they are, remember their great-grandma. The guardian, Mary Giordano, did everything she could to isolate my mother from them and from me. They do not yet know what happened but they will. This is not a deep dark family secret; it is America’s dirty little secret. 

While for me the tears still appear at the oddest moment, the what ifs still linger in my mind and at times keep me up at night, the long lasting effects of guardianship abuse was also life changing for my daughter. It is often said that some good ultimately comes out of bad and in my Mom’s case, I believe this to be true.    
by Tara Wilson

November 6, 2014
Normally, as parents to young children we are concerned with protecting our little ones; whether that is from falling, the common cold, or which guardian would raise them in the event of our incapacity or passing.  As our children get older and learn to protect themselves, we are often reminded that we need to look out for our other loved ones as well.  So while our children are becoming more independent, our aging parents and grandparents are in need of more support and protection.  We fall into that “sandwich generation” where we are caring for our children and our own parents.

When I was pregnant with my son I began to notice that my grandmother was starting to forget more and more.  I vividly remember the day that I thought, she needs help now.  I was sitting at my office desk overlooking the Boston Harbor late one morning and picked up the phone to call her as I always did.  She was watching “The Price Is Right” with volume so high that it sounded as if the tv was in my own office, not her kitchen 250 miles away. My grandmother, who worked as a teller at Chemical Bank and who managed her family’s finances like a cross between a CFO and extreme couponer for over 50 years, told me she missed a credit card payment.  While the credit card fee was only $29.00 and the interest was minimal for her purchases at Kohl’s and Macy’s, it was unheard of for her.  I offered to call the credit card company and the fees were waived within minutes.  However, this was the beginning of the end for the financial astuteness that ruled her life.

My grandmother signed a Power of Attorney and Health Care Proxy when she realized she couldn’t quite handle everything.  While I tried to give my grandmother other advice, my grandmother believed she would be fine with the minimal planning she put in place before I entered law school; she and my grandfather had prepared simple wills naming each other as beneficiaries and their three children as successors.  Unfortunately, within a few months, my grandmother got very sick and my mother’s siblings had a very different view on how my grandmother should be cared for (or not cared for as the case may be).

Full Article and Source:
The Long Lasting and Lifetime Effect of Guardianship Abuse

See Also:
How New York's Elderly Lose Their Homes to Guardianship

NASGA:  Dorothy Wilson, New York Victim

NASGA Member Diane Wilson, Dorothy Wilson, Tricked and Dumped in a Facility, Begs to Go Home


David said...

Thank you, Tara. People need to know how this nightmare affects us all forever.

Anonymous said...

Good article! Thank you Tara.

Betty said...

I appreciate this article and Tara Wilson. I too am a granddaughter and I will never get over the injustice and the pain of it.

Carolyn said...

Dorothy Wilson did everything right and the system let her down and let her die.

NASGA Member said...

Diane, you must be so proud of Tara!

Diane said...

I am incredibly proud of my daughter. We were devastated by the guardianship of my mother and the abusive uncaring manner in which she was treated. The last three years of her life were virtually destroyed by Mary Giordano of Franchina and Giordano in Garden City, NY. I will continue to fight for justice for my Mom and all vulnerable people. We must all be the voice for the voiceless and saver them from these monsters.