Born in the early 20th Century, Mary has lived through a major depression, two World Wars, Korean War, Cold War, Bay of Pigs, Vietnam, Desert Storm, and war in Afghanistan, but most likely none of these prepared her for the war between her children. Children that she had cuddled lovingly to her breast. Children she saw as precious gifts to be loved unconditionally & protected with all the energy and might of her heart and soul. Children she laughed with and cried with, while always delighting in the tiniest of accomplishments of each.
The years from the first time Mary saw her wee ones to now have been many. Not all have been delightful. Some have been touched with sadness and desperation. One can only wonder just how much Mary knows about the war between her children and what her response would be, if she were actually aware of the entirety of what has taken place. Perhaps, for her, it is better that she not know, but for the wounded — there may be no return from the brink of hell that denies one child the ready comfort of a mother’s arms and elevates the others to a perch of temporary control they shall never be able to undo or be free of. The dark cloak of decisions made shall forever be theirs to haunt them in the night as they perhaps wonder if their decisions were made in good faith and for good cause or if they denied their mother her child for wrongful reason.
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Mary Sudovar: The Children at War
I can't wait for the next story!
ReplyDeleteThis article is written by Carrie Hutchens of the American Clarion. Our readers may know Carrie because she writes alot on the Gary Harvey case. Please check out her article on the AC and encourage her to write more of these types of articles: http://www.americanclarion.com/12871/2012/09/29/mary-sudovar-children-war/
ReplyDeleteEducation is needed for people to make informed decisions how to mediate and control their family differences.
ReplyDeleteGoing to court IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE with no way out.
Who is affected? Everyone.
Who benefits? Usually lawyers, the guardians, GAL's and the parade of people billing billing billing the ward into MEDICAID.
Please keep exposing the truth of the probate system.
I think warring families are the main enabler of guardianship abuse. And in many of these cases, one or more of the siblings is a sociopath and there's not much that can be done to end that kind of a war. But, it's also tru that rational people can lose their rational thinking and behavior quite quickly and sometimes, it's never recovered.
ReplyDeleteLook at all she's been through and to think her life would end up like this is just mindboggling. I assume the war went straight into guardianship......
ReplyDeleteIn families, I think the biggest problem of all is that they don't communicate. A majority can quickly gang up on the minority and all because they don't sit around the table and talk it out. Everybody has a side but all sides need to be heard.
ReplyDeleteGreat job! Keep the information coming. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteIt's going to be a sad story but I'm still looking forward to it. Maybe it will have a happy ending.
ReplyDeleteThe worst betrayal of all is a child's betrayal of his/her parent.
ReplyDeleteI have followed the Gary Harvey case through Carrie's writings and am a big fan of hers.
ReplyDeleteI do think if Mary knew what all was going on, she would hate it. Any Mother would. I'm anxious to read what comes next.
ReplyDeleteFamily rifts are something that just go on and on and get stronger with every day the dispute isn't settled.
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ReplyDeleteMary Ann SUDOVAR Mirko of Wayne NJ, gets to keep the money.
Paterson day care agency owes state $900,000
http://www.northjersey.com/news/172776061_Paterson_day_care_agency_owes_state__900_000_to_lose_part_of_funding.html?page=all
Feuding siblings are the road to riches for the liars - err, lawyers!
ReplyDeleteHerald News: A non-profit falls down on its mission
ReplyDeleteThursday, October 11, 2012
Herald News
THOUSANDS OF residents in Passaic County depend on the work of non-profits, many of them agencies that perform miracles every day in helping lower-income families survive one crisis after another one week to the next. Now we find that one non-profit that has played such a vital rule in shoring up the so-called safety net has also been less than responsible with government money it has been responsible for disbursing.
As Staff Writer Harvy Lipman reports, the 4Cs of Passaic County, which oversees day care in Passaic County, will lose $900,000 in state funding in order to make up for a retirement nest egg given to its former executive director and other "disallowed" uses of its financial support from Trenton. The state Department of Human Services, following an audit of the agency, says 4Cs wasn't permitted to use state funds for former director Mary Ann (SUDOVAR) Mirko's deferred compensation account.
Incredibly, the child-care oversight organization paid Mirko, its longtime leader, nearly $1.4 million for both her retirement fund and other fringe benefits from 2003 through 2010. Until her retirement in January, (SUDOVAR) Mirko was one of the highest-paid non-profit executives in North Jersey.
Turns out nothing here was done illegally, but it's about as wrong as you can get. Sadly, it is one more case in Passaic County where an agency or non-profit meant to do good, to help people in need, has instead compensated its high-ranking employees as if they worked for a multinational investment bank.
What, it is fair to ask, were board members who were supposed to be watching over the agency's finances doing while all this taxpayer money was flying out the window, not to help people in need, but to pad an employee's retirement package?
Keith Darragh, the current chairman of the 4Cs board who arrived after the non-profit approved the last extension of Mirko's contract containing the retirement payments, says 4Cs will have "to put this behind us and move forward as an agency."
Unfortunately, 4Cs now not only has a money problem, it has a public relations problem. Darragh told The Record the 4Cs board is developing a fundraising plan to replace the lost funds. A reasonable person might ask why anyone should contribute to a non-profit that has shown itself to be so self-serving in the past. If Darragh and the board really want to move forward, it will ask for the resignations of any and all who approved the (SUDOVAR) Mirko package.
This unsavory business involving 4Cs is reminiscent of the recent fallout involving the One-Stop Career Center in Passaic County, also heavily publicly funded, where a state audit revealed that two administrators had been getting overtime for several years despite being ineligible as salaried employees. Perhaps it should be stated more clearly: Non-profits that receive state funding are not entitled to just spend money in freewheeling fashion.
Sadly, these are programs on which a large swath of the region's population depend. Formerly known as the North Jersey Community Coordinated Child Care Agency, 4Cs had an operating budget in 2010 of $34.5 million. According to its audited financial statement, all but a few thousand dollars of its revenue comes from state and federal funds.
As The Record reports, 4Cs provides an invaluable service as the child-care resource and referral program for Passaic County. Among other programs, it oversees state and federal child-care voucher programs and runs the county's referral service for parents seeking child care.
Now, thanks to this outrageous compensation for (SUDOVAR)Mirko, as well as other misappropriations, 4Cs will see its state outlay drastically cut — by nearly $300,000 in each of the next three fiscal quarters. The worst part is that the penalty will not hit those who behaved so irresponsibly, but those who need the agency's services the most.
Her son, an attorney, now wants the money from the sale of the house for a loan he and his wife allegedly made.
ReplyDeleteFrom the article I just read, Mary Sudovar received $900,000, an extremely generous retirement package, as a high ranking executive of a day care center funded by taxpayers federal and state dollars. Now the daycare center loses state/federal funding; Mary Sudovar gets to keep the money, EXCEPT it somehow fell into the hands of her son, an attorney! And Mary cannot see her daughter; armed guards were used to keep certain people away from her. Her house has been vacant for 39 months instead of being rented, yet she somehow authorized a $32,000 deck to be built by her grandson on her home? The money, which is HER retirement money for HER care, is now gone?
What a mess. Unethical gains equals unethical behaviors equals unethical actions equals pain and heartache all around.
I pray that Mary and her daughter are reunited and that the thievery that is taking place is exposed and the perpetrators caught and are forced to pay for their disgusting behavior.
We complain about the judges and the courts and while those facts are true, and I personally can attest to the legal thievery and abuse of the elderly taking place, to actually read about a member of the judicial system doing it to his own mother just confirms what these people are all about. No one is immune, including their own family.
Karma....
Diane, there is some confusion here.
ReplyDelete1) The son is not an attorney. He is an "attorney in fact" or one that has the Power of Attorney over some matters.
2) It is the eldest daughter that received the retirement package someone posted about, not Mary Sudovar.
3) Mary was taken from the care facility to supposedly go home to die, but she didn't. Thank goodness! Then her money was spent. Some payments are questionable and at best -- bad judgment.
4) Her house was left sitting and draining money from the estate, rather than being rented or sold at the onset. And while it was just sitting there -- a deck was built onto it and her estate charged.
From everything I have been told, the Mary Sudovar I wrote about is a wondrous and loving person. She is a very special lady!!!!
OH LOOK! an off shore tax shelter by the Mirkos?!!! How Special!
ReplyDeleteMbc of New Jersey, LLC has a location in Wayne, NJ. Active officers include Mary Ann Mirko and William R. Mirko. Mbc of New Jersey, LLC filed as a Foreign Limited Liability on Thursday, February 23, 2012 in the state of New Jersey and is currently active.
Filings: Foreign Limited Liability (FL - Active)
State of Record: FL
State Reference ID: M12000001685
File Date: Thursday, February 23, 2012
Active: True
Filing Type: Foreign Limited Liability
Source: Florida Department of State last refreshed 12/14/2012
I think it’s actually hilarious that people think this is the truth. I have never seen such horrible false information. Believing narcissists who only have their own interests instead of the actual facts is beyond crazy. Next time you post something about this family I will strive to get this taken down. Never should I be able to google my own grandma and see these false claims. Next time ask the REAL family instead of a fake narcissistic man who lies for a living.
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