Many conflicts begin when a parent treats children unequally in a will or trust. A testator certainly can do what he or she wants with his or her property. The profligate son or nasty daughter may very well not deserve an equal share. Or it may seem unfair if the CEO son receives as much as his schoolteacher brother. But it is very difficult for a child of any age to accept unfair treatment. Wealth or professional status often does little to mitigate the myriad motions someone feels when a parent treats a brother or a sister more favorably. These emotions can fuel litigation. While all litigation should be based on good faith legal claims supported by facts, very often these emotions – right or wrong – prolong and complicate the litigation.
Parents, when devising estate plans, should consider sibling dynamics, and should consider both the emotional and financial consequences of treating children differently. There are good arguments for treating each child equally. There are also good arguments for recognizing each child's economic circumstances. Well-drafted estate plans can greatly reduce the types of legal claims a disgruntled child can make.
But sometimes the caretaker child is not quite a saint. This child may feel entitled and try to exert undue influence upon the parent to convey assets or change estate plans for the child's benefit. The courts are filled with cases where a child misuses a power of attorney or otherwise takes advantage of a vulnerable parent. These cases are challenging because the caretaker child may be part martyr and part scoundrel. The distant sibling may have a hard time contradicting the closer sibling's testimony about what the parent said or did. The closer sibling may rationalize, exaggerate or outright lie.
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Great article. More family disputes lead to guardianship than any other cause, in my opinion.
ReplyDeleteIt was a family dispute that brought guardianship into our family too. Thank you for this article which I hope people will read and heed.
ReplyDeleteIn our family the person that caused my mother's guardianship could never get along with anyone. No one could ever reason with her. She destroyed everything she comes in contact with, everyone always tried to help her. No use with her. Now my Mother is suffering with an abusive guardian that denies her everything, even rehabilitation which she is entitled to according to Florida Statutes.. This is happening in Pinellas County, Florida where guardianship abuse is rampant. Many Judges here are ignoring family complaints about professional guardians. Many guardians here are isolating, restricting visits for no reason, using chemical restraints, etc. This is all abuse!!! ABUSE is a CRIME and guardians that do this need to be removed and criminally charged with a buse.
ReplyDeleteParents, spend your money. Go on trips, buy a new car, do whatever makes you happy. Your psycho child won't be interested in you, should you become disabled, if you don't have money.
ReplyDeleteYes, the courts love sibling problems. But they also excel in feeding psychological and personality disorders to justify the guardianship that makes the judges, lawyers, and care industry wealthy. It is sadistic on all levels.
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