To make sure all the documents are properly filed, it's usually best to work with an attorney you trust. |
In the vast constellation of legal documents you could encounter over your lifetime, some are more critical than others. For older adults, a few legal instruments take on outsized importance, particularly in the context of ensuring adequate health care as we age. While some documents that older adults may need are focused on the financial side of your affairs, others concern how decisions will be made about your health care. The information that follows will focus on the documents related to health care that may come into play as you age.
As you navigate these legal waters for yourself or a loved one, some legal terms and documents you may encounter include:
- Living will
- Advance directive
- Do not resuscitate order
- Physician orders for life-sustaining treatment
- Health care proxy
- Power of attorney
- Guardianship or conservatorship
Living Will, Advance Directive, or Do Not Resuscitate Order
Living wills can go by a number of different names including advance directive, do not resuscitate order or POLST, which is short for physician orders for life-sustaining treatment. This document, which is often printed on brightly colored card stock and is signed by a physician, outlines which specific procedures and actions you do and don't want to receive from first responders in the event of an emergency or from end-of-life health care providers. It may include questions such as: Do you want a feeding tube placed? Do you want to be transported to the emergency room? Answers can help specify how you want to be treated if you can't communicate your wishes directly.
Stuart
Furman, an elder law attorney and president of the Southern California
Legal Center, Inc., in Valley Center, California, and author of "The
ElderCare Ready Book," says the living will or advance directive is
sometimes colloquially referred to as the "pull-the-plug" document,
meaning that if someone is beyond the hope of resuscitation, then let
the person go and don't take heroic efforts to revive them.
Health Care Proxy
Health care proxy
is a term used in some states to designate the agent who can make
health care decisions on your behalf, and may be a casual term or may
reference the agent named in a formal health care power of attorney
document.
Power of Attorney
There
are many different types of power of attorney documents that can cover
financial or health care matters. Furman says that while there are many
permutations of these documents that should be tailored by an attorney
for your specific situation, generally speaking all of these legal
instruments are "giving authority to someone else to make medical
decisions for you in the event that you're not able to make them on your
own."
It's
important to "get your ducks in a row" early, with regard to organizing
your legal documents for health care, says Megan Carnarius, a registered
nurse, founder of Memory Care Consulting and author of "A Deeper
Perspective on Alzheimer's and Other Dementias: Practical Tools with
Spiritual Insights." Particularly if there's a family history of Alzheimer's
or dementia, you need to make arrangements before the diagnosis is
made, because "you can't typically write a power of attorney if someone
has this diagnosis." A dementia diagnosis often means the person is
considered legally incapable of making those decisions. Therefore, "if
families have a suspicion that the person is getting more confused and
they feel like they need to go to the doctor to get a diagnosis, they
should have already taken care of the financial and decision-making
stuff. You don't want to wait until you've gotten a diagnosis, because
then (attorneys) worry about competency."
In
a perfect world, we'd all set up a durable power of attorney as soon as
we turned 18, as that's when things can get dicey legally if you're
incapacitated. Wilson shares the story of a young man who fell off a
retaining wall and sustained injuries that rendered him incapacitated. A
lengthy legal battle ensued over who would make medical decisions on
his behalf because he didn't have any power of attorney documents
drafted prior to the accident. For seniors, it becomes even more
important to get these documents sorted out, as conditions can
deteriorate quickly and catch everyone off guard. If the power of
attorney assignation is left too late, the person will be forced into
guardianship, Wilson says.
Guardianship or Conservatorship
Guardianship,
which Furman says is called conservatorship in California, comes into
play when someone is unable to make decisions for themselves and there
is no power of attorney in place. Many power of attorney documents also
include provisions for that same person to become guardian. But there is
a distinction in the level of power each role has, Wilson says. "An
example would be an older adult living at home
who's burning food because they have poor memory. They're not
showering, they're not taking medications and they refuse to move to
assisted living." The power of attorney designee "can't put that person
into a care community because that person could say, 'Hey I'm leaving,'
and power of attorney can't stop them. But a guardian can. A guardian
has absolute power of appointment through the court. It's a very serious
appointment, because when you have a guardian, you give up all your
rights to decide about health care and money." Therefore, "it has to be a
very trusted person."
Who Should Be My Power of Attorney?
Typically,
power of attorney and guardianship responsibilities are vested in a
family member, such as the adult child of a senior. But there are lots
of other relationships that can work, from close friends to hired
professionals. Wilson is one such professional advocate who takes power
of attorney assignments for people who don't have an appropriate agent
in the family.
Choosing
the right person to act on your behalf as your power of attorney is
critical, Wilson says. "If a parent chooses a child who has been
terrible at financial management to be their financial power of
attorney, it's going to be a disaster. Same for health care. If they
choose someone who can't advocate with doctors and the care community,
it's not going to work out," and this is where professionals like Wilson
can help. Appointing a professional can also be a savvy way of avoiding
conflict if you anticipate such could occur in choosing one sibling
over the other, for example. "You really have to plan for conflict if it
exists in family members because all of this gets so very, very nasty,"
when wishes aren't clearly communicated.
Matt Perrin, Lindsay's husband and co-founder of Ro & Steve, has also had to navigate these legal waters in caring for his mother who's currently in an assisted living facility. He says it's very important to have all of your legal documents in order before making the move to an assisted living community.
It's also
important to designate one or more successors, or backups, to your
first-choice power of attorney. A successor would step into the role of
power of attorney if your first choice can't or won't serve. "If you
don't appoint a successor and the appointed person resigns, and you
can't do another power of attorney, you're forced into guardianship. So,
you always want to have backup successors in your documents," Wilson
says.
Who Can Help Me with Power of Attorney?
To
make sure all the documents are properly filed, it's usually best to
work with an attorney you trust. "There's all sorts of forms you can
pull off the internet," Wilson says, "but it's better to use an attorney
in the state where you live because laws differ by states. Have an
attorney draft them and look at them every 10 years to see what needs to
be changed."
These
variations from state to state can become problematic if your loved one
moves, says Lindsay Perrin, co-founder of Ro & Steve, an
independent online review site for senior living facilities and other
businesses related to senior care that sprang out of her and her
husband's challenges in finding the right care scenarios for their aging
parents. "We drafted these documents for my dad years ago," when he was
living in Massachusetts prior to his diagnosis with Lewy body dementia.
But since then, he's moved in with Perrin's family in New Hampshire,
and sometimes the personnel the family encounters at health care centers
aren't familiar with the out-of-state documents. This can cause
significant hassle, leading to "stressful situations in the hospital
where I'm trying to sign for Medicare
and the desk staffers aren't familiar with my Massachusetts documents."
Sometimes they need to make calls to an attorney to clear up confusion.
Perrin
says it's not possible now to have new documents drawn up in New
Hampshire because her father's condition has progressed to the point
where he's unable to sign new documents, so they soldier on with the
out-of-state but still completely legal documents they have. Still,
Perrin recommends thinking ahead about where you're likely to be living
when the power of attorney will come into force and have the documents
drawn up in that state. "Technically my Massachusetts documents should
be well understood. They work here. It's just that not everybody has
that education, so think about the next phase," and where you might be
living when you'll need the assistance of a power of attorney.
Power of Attorney and Assisted Living
Matt Perrin, Lindsay's husband and co-founder of Ro & Steve, has also had to navigate these legal waters in caring for his mother who's currently in an assisted living facility. He says it's very important to have all of your legal documents in order before making the move to an assisted living community.
Some
facilities may require that such documents be in place before they will
admit your loved one, particularly if that person is incompetent.
"There's no authority for that person to sign the contract," Furman
says. "That's a cardinal rule across the country – incompetent people
have no authority to sign contracts. It's like a child." Even if you're
entering a facility while you're still considered competent, it's wise
to have a power of attorney in place so that if your situation changes
rapidly, as can happen with a stroke, for example, the community will
know whom to contact when decisions need to be made. Having the
appropriate type of power of attorney in place "gives us the tools in
our toolbox," to be able to act in the best interest of the individual,
Furman says.
To draft the documents, the family worked with an attorney they'd known for years, though Matt says if he were to do it again, he'd probably opt for an attorney with specialized expertise in estate planning. "We're not wealthy. My mom has very few assets, but thinking we didn't need an estate plan was sort of a naive mistake. And from what I can tell it's a common misconception." Rather, estate planning is an important aspect of the whole picture no matter how much money you have. "I would tackle (estate planning and power of attorney) in tandem. It's one less thing for you to do later," when perhaps your loved one's condition has deteriorated, making even a small task like seeking a notary's signature seem like a much bigger chore. "It adds up, and you need to save your mental space for the real stuff," he says.
Matt says drafting a power of attorney was easy and straightforward – the hardest part was having the conversation with his mom about initiating the process.
On the advice of a friend, he approached that difficult conversation
delicately, seeking consensus with his mother rather than being
prescriptive. "It did make it easier to cut through what's not the
easiest of discussions," he says of taking a collaborative approach. His
mother's 40-year career as a nurse also meant she was open to talking
about end-of-life and what arrangements needed to be made for her care.
"She sees the value in these sorts of things, but even then, when it
comes time to have the discussion about you, it's hard. It's just a
tricky discussion, but you're doing it hopefully at the right time and
not when you're in dire straits." As with most anything related to aging
and health care, getting ahead of any coming crisis is best.
To draft the documents, the family worked with an attorney they'd known for years, though Matt says if he were to do it again, he'd probably opt for an attorney with specialized expertise in estate planning. "We're not wealthy. My mom has very few assets, but thinking we didn't need an estate plan was sort of a naive mistake. And from what I can tell it's a common misconception." Rather, estate planning is an important aspect of the whole picture no matter how much money you have. "I would tackle (estate planning and power of attorney) in tandem. It's one less thing for you to do later," when perhaps your loved one's condition has deteriorated, making even a small task like seeking a notary's signature seem like a much bigger chore. "It adds up, and you need to save your mental space for the real stuff," he says.
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