Bride Goes Viral After Banning Groom's 98-Year-Old Grandmother From Wedding Reception

A Reddit post has gone viral after a bride asked if she was wrong for not wanting her partner's grandmother at the wedding reception. Alexi Rosenfeld/Getty Images

By Catherine Ferris

 

One bride's recent post on the Subreddit "Am I the A**hole?" about a disagreement between herself and her fiancé caused online discourse in regards to proper wedding etiquette.

The poster said she did not want the groom's grandmother at the reception because she would be too out of place due to "the dancing, loud music and an open bar."

"We've agreed to not have kids at our wedding, as we want the reception to be a huge party for your adult friends and family with dancing, loud music and an open bar," the user, Legitimate_Scar_8747 wrote. "However, for precisely the same reasons that we don't want kids there, I don't want his elderly grandmother at our wedding either."

The Reddit user explained that her fiancé's grandmother was invited to the ceremony, but did not want her at the reception because she envisioned it would be a "party atmosphere, and she will be extremely out of place."

Wedding etiquette can vary, but when building a guestlist, WeddingWire recommended some of the first people to include on the list are immediate family. That means parents, siblings, grandparents, as well as siblings' spouses and children.

The article noted that relationships between family and friends are different for everyone and it's important to be surrounded by the people who love and support the couple on their wedding day.

The post did not imply a strenuous relationship, and the bride wrote that her fiancé's grandmother said, "she always dreamed about being at her grandson's wedding."

"I said that she's more than welcome at the ceremony, but she will just be too out of place at the reception," the bride wrote.

Kim Forrest, the senior editor at WeddingWire, said part of wedding planning is about showing gratitude and appreciation for family members and friends.

"Instead of being concerned that Grandma will 'kill the vibe,' try reframing the situation," Forrest told Newsweek. "You're so fortunate that your spouse's grandmother is able to attend your big day; there are many couples that would give anything to have that privilege with their beloved grandparents."

She said it was also important to remember that this is a time for partners to build a solid relationship with their future in-laws. In addition to having the groom's grandmother at the wedding, Forrest said the couple should make sure she's comfortable.

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Bride Goes Viral After Banning Groom's 98-Year-Old Grandmother From Wedding Reception