It was an eventful day for Grace Manor Care Center, a senior living facility in Burlington, Colorado. Leonard and Shirley Matties were about to celebrate their 72nd wedding anniversary, but this time, it will be the most memorable one yet.
When Ardis Behrendsen, a Certified Nurses Aide, discovered the 91-year-old couple’s anniversary was nearing, she planned and organized an entire celebration for the lovebirds’ special day. Shirley and Leonard have been together for seven decades, and Behrendsen wanted to go the extra mile. Reaching your 72nd year as a married couple is not something you can celebrate every day.
The Matties family was already planning for an anniversary party, but Behrendsen thought a photo shoot would be a perfect memento for the couple’s everlasting love. She got a beautiful pink gown for Shirley, and it didn’t take long before the whole senior living facility took notice of the 91-year-old’s gorgeous dress and charming smile.
When everything was all set, a staff member of the senior living facility wheeled Shirley out into the hallway and onto where Leonard was staying. When Leonard saw her wife roll towards his direction, his face became filled with color—he was absolutely delighted to see the love of her life in a flowy pink gown.
Despite more than 13,000 views of the Behrendsen’s Facebook post, not everyone knows that the 91-year-old woman in the pink gown has dementia. In the video posted by Ardis, Shirley seemed to recognize Leonard’s face. She even reached his man’s hand as the couple held hands.
People with dementia, especially the elderly, find it more difficult to store and remember new memories or information they got within a short period. But this was not the case with Shirley—she was able to recognize her husband, react accordingly, and be in the ‘present’.
Full Article and Source:
Wife Who Has Dementia Remembers Husband on their 72nd Anniversary Photo Shoot
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14 Years After They Starved My Sister to Death, We Must Never Forget Terri Schiavo
Every year, I write to honor my sister, Terri Schiavo, on March 31st,
the anniversary of her death. For those who do not remember, Terri, at
the age of 26, experienced a still inexplicable collapse resulting in a
severe brain-injury. As a consequence of her brain injury, she was
unable to swallow using conventional utensils, and like many Americans
required nutrition and hydration by feeding tube in order to live.
Terri did not have a medical directive specifying who would make her
health care decisions in the event she was incapable of making them
herself. Therefore, it was her husband, Michael Schiavo, who was
appointed by the court to be her medical caretaker and was ostensibly
the only person who would decide what type of care, if any, Terri would
receive.
Initially, my family did not anticipate this would be an issue. But that changed after Michael obtained a million-dollar medical malpractice settlement on Terri and his behalf. Before the settlement, Michael discussed continuing rehabilitation. Afterwards, he tried to deny her antibiotics when Terri came down with a urinary tract infection. But when my family sued, he relented.
It was in 1997, and as a consequence of Michael not having the permission to end Terri’s life by denying treating her UTI, Michael petitioned a Florida court, for consent to remove Terri’s feeding tube with the intent being that she dies by starvation and dehydration.
My family objected vehemently and offered to care for Terri in her disabled condition and provide ongoing appropriate therapy that was positively impacting her brain-injury. By this time, Michael was living with a woman he called his “fiancĂ©,” with whom he eventually sired two children.
Despite this clear personal conflict of interest – and the financial benefit he would receive by inheriting Terri’s estate from the malpractice case – the judge believed testimony that Terri simply “wanted” to die.
Sadly, after a protected legal battle, Michael was successful, and on March 18th, 2005, Terri’s feeding tube was removed, beginning a steady and extended death lasting almost two-weeks. I witnessed the process. Believe me, it was an agonizing and merciless demise.
It was during my families very public battle with Terri’s husband that we were often asked whether Terri documented who would care for her in the case of her incapacitation. In other words, did she have an advanced medical directive that specified a health care surrogate. That’s an important issue.
Each year there are over a million Americans who experience brain-injury. In fact, brain-injury is leading cause of death and disability in the US and can, at least initially, impact a person ability to make competent medical decisions. Indeed, with no previously chosen person to act as your medical decision maker and depending on the laws of the state where you live, a large portion of these cases will default to a spouse or family member deciding next medical steps.
In worse case scenarios, and depending on the circumstances, patients can be subjected to medical decisions that are made by the hospitals where they are admitted. This is because hospitals are now empowered to decide whether treatment will be continued or stopped by what is termed as “futile care theory”.
Even those who sign an advance directive requesting continuing care are not necessarily safe. “Medical futility”, sometimes called “futile care” or “inappropriate care,” permits strangers – bioethicists or doctors – to have the final say about a patient’s care, even if the patient has expressly detailed their medical treatment wishes in an advance directive or by identifying a health care surrogate.
These “futile” care determination can happen by either denying (or withdrawing) care when they conclude that a patient’s “quality of life” is arbitrarily “too low” to justify care or the cost of treatment that is, in fact, working by allowing them to continue living. For example, it would be as if doctors vetoed a decision by Michael and my family to continue Terri’s care.
Exacerbating these situations is the legality (and the common practice) to deny/withhold food and water (via feeding tubes). Understand that these are not cases of refusing extraordinary and disproportionate care when one is truly near death, rather the denial/withdrawn of basic and ordinary care to knowingly cause death.
Unfortunately, this is the economic and ideological reality of today’s health care system and is the reason the autonomy of a patient is susceptible by hospital refusal to provide the life-affirming treatment that patients are requesting, and treatment that is helping them.
Ironically, as medicine and ethicists push for a patient’s autonomy, the direction of today’s health care is to control treatment (or the patient) even in such case when a patient is clearly asking for certain treatment as in futile care judgments.
Notwithstanding these possible scenarios, executing a health care power of attorney can help safeguard access to treatment, including basic care, food and water, as well as other forms of appropriate care.
It is harder to impose futile care on a patient who has stated in writing they want treatment and have appointed a surrogate to carry out those instructions. A health care power of attorney is a document that allows you to designate a specific, trusted person to make critical medical decisions if you are not able to speak for yourself.
Equally important is whoever you designate your health care surrogate, they will need to understand the patient’s rights, without being frightened by clinicians or hospital administrators if there is a disagreement over medical treatment.
Appointing a health care surrogate is a simple and not only the smart way, but the best way to ensure that ethical and appropriate decisions are made by someone trusted and can act in a way that advance directives simply are unable to do.
Full Article & Source:
14 Years After They Starved My Sister to Death, We Must Never Forget Terri Schiavo
Initially, my family did not anticipate this would be an issue. But that changed after Michael obtained a million-dollar medical malpractice settlement on Terri and his behalf. Before the settlement, Michael discussed continuing rehabilitation. Afterwards, he tried to deny her antibiotics when Terri came down with a urinary tract infection. But when my family sued, he relented.
It was in 1997, and as a consequence of Michael not having the permission to end Terri’s life by denying treating her UTI, Michael petitioned a Florida court, for consent to remove Terri’s feeding tube with the intent being that she dies by starvation and dehydration.
My family objected vehemently and offered to care for Terri in her disabled condition and provide ongoing appropriate therapy that was positively impacting her brain-injury. By this time, Michael was living with a woman he called his “fiancĂ©,” with whom he eventually sired two children.
Despite this clear personal conflict of interest – and the financial benefit he would receive by inheriting Terri’s estate from the malpractice case – the judge believed testimony that Terri simply “wanted” to die.
Sadly, after a protected legal battle, Michael was successful, and on March 18th, 2005, Terri’s feeding tube was removed, beginning a steady and extended death lasting almost two-weeks. I witnessed the process. Believe me, it was an agonizing and merciless demise.
It was during my families very public battle with Terri’s husband that we were often asked whether Terri documented who would care for her in the case of her incapacitation. In other words, did she have an advanced medical directive that specified a health care surrogate. That’s an important issue.
Each year there are over a million Americans who experience brain-injury. In fact, brain-injury is leading cause of death and disability in the US and can, at least initially, impact a person ability to make competent medical decisions. Indeed, with no previously chosen person to act as your medical decision maker and depending on the laws of the state where you live, a large portion of these cases will default to a spouse or family member deciding next medical steps.
In worse case scenarios, and depending on the circumstances, patients can be subjected to medical decisions that are made by the hospitals where they are admitted. This is because hospitals are now empowered to decide whether treatment will be continued or stopped by what is termed as “futile care theory”.
Even those who sign an advance directive requesting continuing care are not necessarily safe. “Medical futility”, sometimes called “futile care” or “inappropriate care,” permits strangers – bioethicists or doctors – to have the final say about a patient’s care, even if the patient has expressly detailed their medical treatment wishes in an advance directive or by identifying a health care surrogate.
These “futile” care determination can happen by either denying (or withdrawing) care when they conclude that a patient’s “quality of life” is arbitrarily “too low” to justify care or the cost of treatment that is, in fact, working by allowing them to continue living. For example, it would be as if doctors vetoed a decision by Michael and my family to continue Terri’s care.
Exacerbating these situations is the legality (and the common practice) to deny/withhold food and water (via feeding tubes). Understand that these are not cases of refusing extraordinary and disproportionate care when one is truly near death, rather the denial/withdrawn of basic and ordinary care to knowingly cause death.
Unfortunately, this is the economic and ideological reality of today’s health care system and is the reason the autonomy of a patient is susceptible by hospital refusal to provide the life-affirming treatment that patients are requesting, and treatment that is helping them.
Ironically, as medicine and ethicists push for a patient’s autonomy, the direction of today’s health care is to control treatment (or the patient) even in such case when a patient is clearly asking for certain treatment as in futile care judgments.
Notwithstanding these possible scenarios, executing a health care power of attorney can help safeguard access to treatment, including basic care, food and water, as well as other forms of appropriate care.
It is harder to impose futile care on a patient who has stated in writing they want treatment and have appointed a surrogate to carry out those instructions. A health care power of attorney is a document that allows you to designate a specific, trusted person to make critical medical decisions if you are not able to speak for yourself.
Equally important is whoever you designate your health care surrogate, they will need to understand the patient’s rights, without being frightened by clinicians or hospital administrators if there is a disagreement over medical treatment.
Appointing a health care surrogate is a simple and not only the smart way, but the best way to ensure that ethical and appropriate decisions are made by someone trusted and can act in a way that advance directives simply are unable to do.
Full Article & Source:
14 Years After They Starved My Sister to Death, We Must Never Forget Terri Schiavo
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