
On August 24th, I will appear in the appeals court here in Nahville, TN to defend against a charge placed on me by a court in GA. The charge says I harassed my dad's estate before he died earlier this year, and seeks about 30K from me in fees charged to my dad by a father, son and daughter law firm. The story is one that I will spare you but has forever impacted my life and the lives of my wife and kids.
In 2006 I got chose to get directly involved in my dad's care. He was being neglected, financially exploited by a sibling, and physically abused by one he loved. My children, and some awesome care during the 3 months he stayed here with us brought his spirit back from a very sad place. During the time he was with us, he was loved every minute of every day, without exception. It was a blessed time, even though we realized the ALZ and Parkinson's already had a firm grip on his mind and body. The time dad spent with us was priceless, and one little girl in particular got under his skin in a big,awesome way!
In 2007 after I took him back home and he had a terrible accident because his needs were being ignored. As a result, I chose to go to GA and filed in the GA court to take legal responsibility for my dad's care, not his money, just the care of his person. As a result of that action, I was demonized, placed in jail, sued, lied about, lied to, stolen from, but worst of all, my children never saw my dad again, and he never met my now 2 year old son. By legal definition that is elder abuse, but no one or agency in that small community in south GA would lift a finger to intervene. No pastor, family friend, or social agency. My dad was told that something bad would happened to him if he spoke to any of us and that he had to follow the rules or he would be taken away from my mom. The Adult services agency said that my dad did want to see my children, but they were not going to do anything about it. I had things happen to me in that probate court that were beyond believable. A lawyer claiming to be my dad's friend submitted motions and received judgments for his motions on the same day he submitted them, calling me an abuser, asking the court to put me in jail, saying dad was not sick and did not need someone to care for him, etc. He helped himself and his two children attorneys to at least 85K of my dad's retirement with all his filings "defending" my dad's "estate" against me. I wanted not a penny of his money, just proof of excellent care and visits with my kids.
None of us ever saw my dad again, he died in January, placed in a facility we were not allowed to visit with a central feeding line inserted he did not want and his suffering was prolonged when there was no chance of recovery from a stroke leaving him unable to swallow. I offered the entire dollar amount of this judgment and to go to jail for 6 months if they would let us take care of him on our dime or use the money and let him die at home. It was rejected, as was our request to attend the funeral. It is my understanding he was taken from south Georgia to his final resting place in South Carolina in the back of a pickup truck to "save money." My dad was a veteran.....he deserved better (even if he was not a veteran he deserved better).
I spent 2 nights in jail here in Williamson County, TN on a "fugitive from justice warrant issued by the court in GA for failing to attend a hearing in GA I knew nothing about. That was thrown out and expunged, and then this lawsuit for money was sent up here, no coincidence by the father and son attorney team that did everything in their power to make sure a father, son and grandchildren never had a relationship in this lifetime.
I will probably lose this lawsuit not because it is fair or right or just, but because of how the law reads and how lawyers can manipulate the rules at times and ignore or not even follow them at others.
My dad is free now. He cannot be hurt anymore, and this stuff is not about his care or honoring his memory.
I struggle with this knowledge: People that have behaved badly in this maybe even evil) profess to know and serve the same God I say I belong to. I cannot reconcile that at this time, and I am sorry that my struggle with that causes my family and my friends a great deal of pain, especially my spousal unit. I have a lost a few friends over this, wanting me to get over it and get on with it. If my dad was able to take care of himself, I never would have stepped into this madness.
I struggle with the knowledge that I have witnessed such disregard for my dad's rights and my own, and that the abuse and exploitation of our older loved ones is more commonplace than I ever imagined it to be. I wanted to believe that if someone or some regulatory body higher up the food chain reviewed what was happening they would take necessary action. I was wrong.
Regards,
Izzy
Full Essay and Source:
NASGA- Dr. H. Boyd Israel