“I started crying when I told the seniors we were closing down,” said
Judy Zangwill, executive director of Sunnyside Community Services,
which closed its senior center except for pickup food service last
Friday, ahead of instructions from the city. “I heard audible moans.”
It
is a terrible irony of the virus: that for older adults, steps to
prevent the spread of COVID-19 increase the risks of social isolation,
which carries its own devastating health effects. A study by the AARP
compared the effects of prolonged isolation to those of smoking 15
cigarettes a day.
Normally programs for elders aim to increase human contact. Now that contact is potentially deadly.
Nursing
homes and assisted-living buildings, by order of the city’s health
department, banned visitors — including, in many cases, residents’
private aides. Public libraries, houses of worship, neighborhood cafes —
all social spots for elders — are also closed, pushing older people
back into what are often lonely apartments: 30 percent of New Yorkers
over 65, and 43 percent of those over 85, live alone, according to the
Department for the Aging.
Sarah Arico, a regular at Sunnyside’s
senior center, said the closing was “very hard to deal with
emotionally.” She goes to the center for photography, for exercise
classes, for the mental health group and “a good lunch.”
Last
Friday, all of that came to a halt. “It is more isolating,” she said.
Without the center, she was turning her attention to her dog and to
phone calls with friends.
When she picked up food at the center, she said, the staff instructed everyone on line to stand six feet apart.
“Everybody was freaking out.”
But Ms. Arico said that she was making sure she walked outside, using physical activity to bolster her mental health.
“It’s
a completely different way of living,” she said. “But I know we are
going to get through this. I try to say, nothing is forever, not the
good times, not the bad times. We all try to get through.”
As much
as the activities and the hot meals, senior centers provide structure
in lives that may not otherwise have it, said Ruth Finkelstein,
executive director of the Brookdale Center for Healthy Aging at Hunter
College. “The way we remember to do something is that it’s tied to
something else,” Ms. Finkelstein said. “When that gets disrupted, it
disrupts when we eat, which disrupts our sleep, which disrupts whether
we take our medications.
“We see this with the way older people
experience delirium in the hospital after just a few days of disruption.
I’m not saying the current disruption will come to that, but once the
disruption starts, it’s very difficult to dam it.”
At
JASA’s Club 76 on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, run by the Jewish
Association Serving the Aging, Stu Lahn said, “My family is being very
hard on me because I’m not being as careful as they would want me to
be.” Mr. Lahn said he was most disturbed by not knowing what would
happen next. He could replace his social activities at the center using
the telephone, but the uncertainty made him feel a loss of control,
which in older people can be particularly damaging.
“What’s hard
is thinking about how long it’s going to last,” he said. “Tomorrow and
tomorrow and tomorrow — it’s the unknown that’s scary.”
Mr. Lanz,
who is 79, normally runs the center’s Monday bingo program with an older
woman who survived the Holocaust (she did not feel up to being
interviewed for this article). Since the center closed last week, he has
been checking up on her by telephone. “I’m wondering at times whether
the Holocaust survivors are better prepared than we are for this,” he
said. “I’ve never experienced anything like this.”
Stephanie
Cacioppo, an assistant professor of psychiatry and behavioral
neuroscience at the University of Chicago, who studies loneliness and
social isolation, said that the sense of losing control in the pandemic
was both harmful and treatable. Social distance need not lead to social
isolation, she said. “You can train your brain like you train your
body,” she said.
Caregivers and family members should try to help
elders feel in control of the precautions they are being told to take,
so that they feel involved rather than punished by the new rules, she
said. She also recommended asking about public health crises they lived
through in the past, including polio or tuberculosis, even SARS or the
H1N1 flu.
Clear information helps; alarmist news programs, on the
other hand, can make people feel helpless. In a nursing home or
assisted-living building, rumors run wild. “Just having someone giving
you an update every three hours, saying I’ll see you later, gives people
a sense that there is a future,” Ms. Cacioppo said. “It makes seniors
not feel abandoned. They see themselves not as objects, but as
contributing.”
Lujira
Cooper, 72, said she felt this control slipping away. She goes three or
four days a week to the Edie Windsor SAGE Center in Midtown Manhattan,
the first full-time senior center for LGBT older adults. The center’s
closing was a reversal of the common aging experience: she was staying
healthy but the social world around her was unraveling.
Also, she missed the arguing and the birthday celebrations — hers was scheduled for later this month.
“I
can clean my house and work on a book I’m supposed to be writing,” she
said, “but it’s the missing of talking to people in another setting. I
don’t mind being by myself. I mind being forced to be by myself. You
can’t go anywhere, you can’t be around people.”
She liked to
eavesdrop on people in museums and restaurants — gone. She wondered
whether, when the virus receded, people would hug again, or if the
practice would disappear. She felt a loss of herself as much as other
people, she said. “When you can’t be around people altogether, and
people are afraid of catching something, it creates a self-imposed
prison.”
Alex Vadukul contributed reporting.
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